Women want to be independent, but deep down, they want to be treated like ladies. But the reality is different and today you will rarely meet a real gentleman. Read below how to win a woman’s heart through your upbringing and your behavior.
Every woman dreams of feeling like a lady – to open the door for her when she goes out, to give her a compliment, to shake her hand when she comes down, to hold her coat… Such gestures are undoubtedly the characteristics of a true gentleman. But where are those careful men? Can we meet them on the street every day or are they so rare that they are an endangered species quietly dying out?
⦁Authenticity breeds trust: Embrace your true self and be authentic
⦁Listen actively: Listening more than you speak opens the door to new knowledge and perspectives
⦁Choose happiness and kindness: Take control of your happiness by choosing a positive outlook, and treat others with kindness and respect
How to become a modern gentleman
this is not only for men but also for women how to find out who is the real gentleman. here are some rules every gentleman must know.
The first rule every gentleman should live by is a very important one. And that is to be authentic.
When you’re true to yourself, not only will you trust the judgments and decisions you make, but others will be more likely to trust you as well.
Being authentic means having more integrity and never second-guessing if you’re doing the right thing.
When you’re honest with yourself, that gives you more strength and openness to deal with problems quickly and make necessary changes.
When you trust yourself to do what’s right, that increases your overall potential and self-esteem.
And being authentic is far less stressful than trying to be someone you’re not.
integrity but also earns the trust of others, allowing you to navigate
challenges with confidence and unlock your true potential
Open doors, pull out chairs, and sit after she sits. This shows you are being intentional and thoughtful. Thoughtfulness goes a long way—small and respectful acts won’t go unnoticed. But if she clearly states she would rather help herself then, of course, let her do so.
Practice thoughtful gestures like opening doors and pulling out chairs for your partner, demonstrating your
intentionality and consideration, while also respecting their preferences and
autonomy when they express a desire to handle things themselves.
Don’t be an idiot
Don’t say something to someone on the internet that you wouldn’t say to their face. It’s cowardly. It shows a lack of character. And, really, are you accomplishing anything with your comment?
It’s fine to engage in a discussion. It’s fine to disagree. But if you’re going to do that online, make sure you’re respectful and don’t be a jerk.
Remember to uphold basic decency and integrity by refraining from making disrespectful comments online, treating others as you would in person, engaging in productive discussions rather than resorting to rudeness or pointless arguments.
Enjoy the moment – put the phone down!
Since we’re on the topic of online behavior, let’s talk about when you’re hanging out with friends or family or out on a date.
Put the phone down and live in the moment.
If you’re constantly looking down at your phone, you’re not engaged, you’re showing disrespect to the people around you, and you’re missing the whole point of being out, which is to make a connection with people and enjoy the moment.
If you’re looking down at your phone, everything else is passing you by.
Listen more than you talk
Listen more than you talk when you talk, you’re repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you might learn something new. Nobody ever learned anything by hearing themselves speak.
And while you’re listening, be sure that you’re engaged and really hearing and understanding what the other person is saying, not just waiting to add your two cents.
Cultivate the habit of active listening, as it allows you to gain new insights and knowledge, for true learning occurs when
you engage fully with others’ perspectives instead of solely focusing on sharing
Only worry when it’s truly warranted
It’s okay to worry about things from time to time, but you can’t worry about everything. Pick and choose your battles and rack and stack your priorities to figure out what’s most important to you and what’s worth your time. All that other stuff? Forget about it.
I’m not saying to constantly be reckless but sometimes, going a little outside of your comfort zone and taking a risk with something can yield incredible results. You’ll always regret the chances you didn’t take, because even if you fail, no one’s ever said that they’re sorry they tried
Choose to be happy
There are things you can control and things you can’t, and choosing to be happy is definitely something that you can control. Seriously, it’s up to you. I could say that a glass is half empty, or I could say that it’s half full – it’s my choice. And focusing on the positive, will lead to greater fulfillment, confidence, and success.
Take charge of your own happiness by consciously choosing a positive outlook, recognizing
that your perspective determines your level of fulfillment, confidence, and
Never ask someone to “give you a smile”. If you’re concerned, ask “Is there anything I can help you with?” or “Need to talk?” Also, try to compliment people on their work and actions more than their physical appearance. There’s nothing wrong with saying someone looks nice (if appropriate), but saying they did good work is much more meaningful.
Be kind and show respect
How you treat people says a lot about you. And it also affects how people see you. It doesn’t matter whether it’s face-to-face, on the phone, or online. If you treat people well if you’re kind, and if you show respect, that reflects well on you, and it also makes a nice deposit in the karma bank.
[noteYour actions and treatment of others not only reflect your character but also shape how others perceive you, so prioritize
kindness, respect, and consideration in all interactions, be it in person, over
the phone, or online, as these positive behaviors contribute to your reputation
and foster positive karma.[/note]
At the end of an evening spent with friends, family or a significant other at your home, walk guests to the door. If appropriate, walk them to their car. If you’re out on the town and dropping someone off at their home, walk them to their door. If it’s a romantic date, walk them to the door only with the intention to make sure they get home safely.
Demonstrate thoughtfulness and care by personally seeing off your guests, friends, or loved ones, whether at your home
or theirs, ensuring their safety and making them feel valued and appreciated.
HOW TO BEHAVE IN THE GYM
For a newcomer, the gym can be a confusing place. What does this medieval-looking contraption do? Is it socially acceptable to take my boxers off in the changing room? Why is that giant man with the spider web tattoo on his chin grunting like that? The answers to the majority of these sorts of questions can be found right here. Stick to these gym etiquette tips, and you’ll blend right in. Well, maybe not with the spider tattoo guy.
1. Don’t play on your phone while hogging a machine or bench. If the gym is busy, let someone else sit in between sets rather than taking up space fiddling on Facebook.
2. Always wipe down any equipment after you’ve finished using it. Nobody wants to find a sweaty arse-print planted on the seat of whatever machine they are trying to use.
3. Put things away once you’re finished with them. Barbells are the perfect shape for someone to trip over and hurt themselves. Don’t let it be your fault.
4. Don’t roar and loudly drop your weights at the end of a set. You aren’t the Incredible Hulk, even if you do smell a bit like him.
5. See those big floor-to-ceiling mirrors? They’re for studying your form. And by that we don’t mean the horseshoe shape of your triceps, big guy.
6. Remember those video game levels where you’d have to make it past a series of swinging obstacles or be knocked to your death? That’s the environment you’re replicating for everyone when you do your kettlebell workout next to the treadmills. Find your own space and leave others to theirs.
7. Be clean and wear clean clothes. Nobody wants or deserves a waft of your #gains every time you lift your arms up to do a rep. Your gym kit bag should be emptied every time you use it.
8. Stay out of a lifter’s ‘bubble’. Unless you’re spotting them, you need to give anyone using the squat rack, bench, or lifting platform a buffer zone of a few feet.
9. Never give out unsolicited training advice, or if someone gives some to you, simply smile, thank them and continue your workout exactly how you were doing it before they stuck their nose in.
Mastering the art of being a gentleman involves embracing authenticity, practicing thoughtfulness and respect, choosing happiness, listening actively, and demonstrating proper etiquette in various settings, ultimately leading to stronger relationships, personal growth, and a more fulfilling life.